Monday, January 15, 2018


Happy New Year to each and every one of you. 2018 shows promise as truly a NEW Year but as is everything in life, to make it NEW will require YOUR participation.

This month’s blog post isn’t about any therapies. It’s about going into a New Year, a year of possibilities and YOUR ability to make it everything you desire . If you were a Numerologist, you’d say it was the Year of Angels filled with excitement, love, relationships, peace and success. Astrologers would say we are headed into a Universal Fresh Start!

Well, I believe it’s the Year of YOU, that everything predicted by numerologists and Astrologers is about YOU. But what does that really mean?

It means, this is the year of change in YOUR life…through positive change IN you. The laws of the Universe are pretty well convincing when it comes to change. The ONLY thing in this world that you have ANY control over changing is…YOU. When you change the way you think, let go of old thoughts that truly do not serve a positive purpose in your life, YOU change and like dominoes falling, everything around you changes for the better.

That kind of goes against the grain of everything you are and believe as a caregiver right? Well…give this some thought…

If you were on an airplane and suddenly the masks fell from the ceiling… would you try to help the people around you first or would you put your mask on first and then help those around you?

I was 13 when my Mother, the Quantum Physicists, first asked me that question and with my chest puffed out and my heart filled with compassion, my answer was, “I’d help everyone I could.” Her response was, “Well, my darling girl, that’s a very noble gesture but also a very stupid thing to do and I would miss you terribly.” “Miss me?” I asked. “Well of course,” she said with that you’re about to get that 2 by 4 across the head kind of lesson look on her face. “You have so much compassion in your heart for people. You are truly fulfilled when serving others but, my dearest daughter, if you do not take care of yourself first, you will be dead and unable to help anyone and that would be such a waste.” Wow … lesson received.

Taking care of YOU … FIRST. That is a very hard concept for caregivers to get their head around but trust this, YOU matter. YOU have value and worth not only to yourself but to so many others but unless you are mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy, you can do little to help anyone.

Achieving YOUR desires. Finding JOY and Peace in YOUR life. Being the VERY BEST of YOU. Creating the life YOU want and deserve. Yes, YOU can have it all!

It’s the New Year … NEW … that’s the key word here. It’s the year of the NEW YOU and yes, you can create it all and it’s easier than you think. Read on …

That week between Christmas and New Years Day is generally a time to rest, reflect and renew the spirit with promises for change in the coming year. We create NEW resolutions (more than likely reworded repeats of old resolutions) with a twist on new resolves. At least, that seems to be the case with 99% of my friends. So what about that 1%? What their Secret?

I have a few friends that are always successful in creating and fulfilling their New Years Resolutions so about 10 years ago, I sat down with each of them to find out what their secret was. Oddly enough, what they told me, I already knew. What I wasn’t doing was applying it to my New Year Resolutions like I was to everything else in my life. What the heck was I thinking?

Change is something most people resist. Change can be intimidating…but it really depends on your perspective. Technology can be intimidating … Cooking a 6 course meal for 30 people can be intimidating … for many people, going to social functions with 300 strangers can be intimidating but simply changing the way you see things, the way you think about things is … really simple because it is about what you believe to be true and considering the possibilities of a different outcome. Feeling intimidated by change is simply fear of stepping out of the box you’ve created for yourself.

How do you feel when you get a haircut or buy a new shirt or blouse or a new pair of shoes? That feeling is being excited about the CHANGE in you! You stepped outside your box and created a NEW YOU if only for a day, a week or even a single moment.

Here’s Why:
Thoughts create words, words create energy, energy transforms matter. In other words, everything you think or speak is like the energy of a prayer. That energy has the ability to change things including the DNA in your body on a cellular level.

So, HOW do you do that? Stay with me now …

According to Dr. Jeffrey Utz, Neuroscience, pediatrics, Allegheny University, different people have different percentages of their bodies made up of water. Babies have the most, being born at about 78%. By one year of age, that amount drops to about 65%. In adult men, about 60% of their bodies are water. However, fat tissue does not have as much water as lean tissue. In adult women, fat makes up more of the body than men, so they have about 55% of their bodies made of water. 

As we age, the amount of water in our bodies diminishes contributing greatly to the ageing process. But water acts as our bodies “carrier or transport system. The excellent ability of water to dissolve so many substances allows our cells to use valuable nutrients, minerals, and chemicals in biological processes.
Water's "stickiness" (from surface tension) plays a part in our body's ability to transport these materials all through ourselves. The carbohydrates and proteins that our bodies use as food are metabolized and transported by water in the bloodstream. No less important is the ability of water to transport waste material out of our bodies.

In 1994, Physicist Masaur Emoto began experimenting with photographing water crystals…something that had never been done before. Emoto believed that water in the body not only carried nutrients or waste throughout our bodies but also carries the energy of everything around us…everything we are exposed to in our environments … the good, the bad and the ugly and the positive or negative impact it has on our bodies at a cellular level.

Emoto set out to prove his theory by exposing pure, unadulterated distilled water to a variety of images, music, words and prayer. He used distilled because there is nothing to start with that could alter the results. Once exposed, he froze the water and photographed the crystals that formed on its surface. Here are some examples of exposure to several variables and what happened:

Water and Music: (Apply this to things you HEAR)

The differences in the crystal formations is pretty amazing but take a look at what happens when the water is exposed to specific photographed images:

Water and Photographed Images: (Things you SEE)

The water crystals take on the life of what it is shown. Is this telling us that what we “see” impacts our bodies? You bet it does. If images of beauty can do this, imagine what images of violence does to us.

Water and Words: (Words you take to heart)
Taking it even further, look at the impact the spoken word has on the body. Remember, negative words said in jest will have as negative an impact as those spoken with ill intent.

Prayer is powerful. We’ve all heard that and most of us believe it. Emoto believed in the power of prayer and proved just how powerful and cleansing it can be. The following before and after photos are of two very polluted water sources, one in the Bahamas and the other in Japan and how the power of prayer changed them.

Water and Prayer: (Feeding the Spiritual You)

So, you ask, does this mean I need to drink distilled water? Nope.

The point here is to show you that in your body you have something (water) that carries the intention of thought, sound, words and visuals throughout your body and impacts it by changing and sculpting you on a cellular level. Your thoughts and spoken words create the energy that transforms you. Everything you hear or see does the same. You have the power to change your environment ... what you are exposed to, the power to change your perception, the power to change your thoughts and the power to strengthen your mental, physical, emotional self to guard against any impact from sources over which you have no control. So the question begs to be asked….what would you prefer to be? The Beauty … or The Beast?

Here are 7 suggestions to get started on creating YOUR Beauty:

1. The first step would be to look at the things you expose yourself to on a daily basis.  Do you read the newspapers, watch the news on TV, and listen to the news on the radio? What kind of music do you listen to daily? What about your words you use regularly….are they positive or negative? Are you constantly worried or focused on how things will turn out? Eliminating the bad news the media is constantly hyping is the first step. I stopped watching the news and reading the paper years ago and I still manage to stay abreast of current affairs without hearing all the garbage. Try it for a few days. I think you’ll find your stress levels reduced dramatically.

2. You can’t avoid negative thinking entirely. Sometimes negative thoughts just pop into your head. When this happens, you must be aware, so that you immediately recognize when you are thinking negatively. When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts you can change the way you think about things … If you're worried and focusing on what could go wrong in a situation, change your thoughts to what could go right. Your mind can only think one thought at a time, so changing the negative thought into a positive one eliminates the negative. For example:  instead of thinking, “I am going to have a hard time adjusting to working with this patient because he/she is so difficult,” think, “I MAY face some challenges in this situation, but I will come up with solutions that we will both be happy with.” With this, you have opened up the possibilities of a completely different outcome and giving yourself the power to discover how ingenious you really are in being creative with solutions.

3. Surround yourself with Positive Quotes as reminders of joy, peace, love, happiness. Using a piece of paper and pen, write the words, I AM LOVE, I AM JOY, I AM PEACE, I AM GRATITUDE and tape it to the bottle you drink water from. These words will infuse the water with the frequency and vibration of Love, Joy, Peace and Gratitude and every time you drink it, you will take in that frequency and vibration. Write the words, I AM AWESOME on a piece of paper and tape it to your mirror. Read them to yourself and look at yourself in the mirror as you brush your teeth or your hair. I like to place Post-It notes with positive quotes on my computer, fridge door, and mirror as reminders to stay positive. Also, I’d like to share with you a quote by an unknown author that was shared in a meditation class that I attended:
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

4. Make a list of 5 things you are grateful for right now. Do this every few days. Doing this helps you to stay in the moment and appreciate what you already have. If there is something you don’t have that you want, add it to your list as though it is on its way. One of my first lists was … I am grateful for my checkup coming out clean, for my dog that greets me so excited every day, for the flowers on my porch that are finally blooming, for this excellent coffee someone suggested I try and for my car continuing to run until my new car appears. Yep…my car was gasping for life everyday and it was just a matter of time before it died but instead of focusing on being fearful of it dying and leaving me stranded or without transportation, I changed it to being grateful for it continuing to perform until I could afford to get another car. Two weeks into showing gratitude for it continuing to perform, I got a call from my son who had made arrangements with a friend of his that owned a used car dealership for me to buy a good car with payments within my budget and the day I drove my old car into the lot to pick up my new car, it took its last breath. Remember…energy flows where you focus goes. If you’re focused on what you have, you will receive more of it. If you focus on what you don’t have, you’ll get more of the same.

5. Do Yoga. There are a number of types of Yoga being taught. I started doing stretch yoga about 25 years ago. Amazingly enough, the instructor I learned it from was in her 70’s at the time. Stretch yoga allows you to work muscle groups, relaxing, while strengthening and toning at the same time. The physical aspects will help you achieve greater flexibility and strength. It took my focus away from my thoughts and brought my attention to my breath. Proper breath is highly important. Breathing deeply and slowly through your nose and exhaling slowly and fully will increase the oxygen in your body and increase blood flow. This aids in relaxing the muscles and eliminates lactic acid build up which is what causes soreness when you exercise. Yoga helps me to stay present to my experience so instead of my thoughts jumping to what could happen, it brought me back to the now—the only moment, the most important moment and what I want to have happen.

6. Meditation is something that to this day I still have difficulties with but  something I have learned is to let my body dictate how long to meditate. I use the same breath exercise that I do in Yoga. This relaxes both body and mind. I focus on nothingness or visualizing myself in a white room filled with warm sunlight and train my gaze on the light source. This helps to calm my mind and eliminate thoughts. I love what meditation does. By clearing the mind even for a few minutes, answers suddenly appear so whatever I was struggling with becomes very clear and I know a resolution is at hand. I talk to a lot of people that seem to have the same difficulty as I do but even more people that have difficulty visualizing. If that’s the case with you, let me suggest an inexpensive meditation tool that has been highly effective for me. It’s called a Crystal Meditation Energy Grid. These grids use Sacred Geometry and Fractal Imagery to help the brain calm and balance bringing the brain into a higher functioning state which allows you to eliminate the chaotic thoughts and integrate in a meditative state. It incorporates the breath, visual and tactile senses and the results are amazing.

A SIDE NOTE: People with dementia respond very well to fractal imagery. If they are incapable of following instructions for breath and visualizing, they can simply use the tactile modality … finger tracing over the image …. To relax the mind, reduce anxiety and stress. Doing this on a regular basis helps their body relax. You may even see a drop in blood pressure and if they have lucid moments, they would be able to follow instructions to learn the breath technique and perhaps even visualize. 

These Crystal Meditation Energy Grids are available at

7. Smile. Since I work from my home and am here daily by myself, I don’t do much of this unless I am reading or watching something funny, so I literally have to bring myself in front of a mirror and force myself to smile. It really does help change your mood and relieve stress. I also feel lighter because it takes fewer muscles to smile than to frown. Besides, frowning ages the heck out of your face!

“See the positive side, the potential, and make an effort.”
~Dalai Lama~
Even though I live and practice daily therapies such as Yoga and Meditation, I still find it’s easy to fall prey to negative thinking. Having negative thoughts plays out like a movie and can only bring you physical, mental and emotional pain, something that most have experienced many times throughout their life.

Negative thoughts drain you of energy and keep you from being in the present moment. The more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger they become much like a small ball rolling along the ground, and as it rolls, it becomes bigger and faster.

That’s what one small negative thought can turn into: a huge, speeding ball of ugliness. On the contrary, a small positive thought can have the same effect blossoming into a beautiful outcome.

I’ve included this video (below) of Emoto’s work to remind you that what you expose yourself to can heal or damage. Be the “Beautiful Outcome” in 2018. It’s a New Year … YOU have the tools to be a New YOU!

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